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Wednesday, May 25, 2005

Chewable Ortho-Tri-Cyclen? Tri-Phasil Bubble Gum?

Just when I think I've heard it all! What do you say to a woman that, with no shame in her voice, tells you she is putting her eleven year old daughter on birth control pills?


I froze with what had to be my well known 'shock and awe' countenance (think Elain on Seinfeld). What do you say? 'Great idea' or 'wish mine was old enough'?

What's so disturbing, beyond the lack of parental guidance on her part, is the fact that a pediatrician can do this without breaking the law.

Let's see, it's against the law for children to:

  • drink alcohol.
  • smoke or use tobacco products.
  • drive a car.
  • vote.
  • work.
  • watch a rated R movie in a theater.
  • get a tattoo.
  • have sex.
  • get married.
  • skydive.

I shouldn't be surprised that a country that not only frees sex offenders but provides those eligible free Viagra, would allow children access to birth control. Don't get me wrong, I love my country BUT I do not love what the 'feel good, forgive all mentality' has done to our society.

It's only a few years away and then along with the final booster shots, our daughters will be offered the Patch. Maybe our sons will be given prescriptions for Cialis or Levitra for those that need an extra boost to their masculine identity during those difficult ages, say nine to eleven years old.

The 'mother' asked me if I had children. When I shared with her I did, in fact, have a daughter around seven years old, she bumped me in that comrade fashion. "You wait, it's coming for you, too."

Not this mother. Not this daughter.


  • I'm with you! Eleven years old? come on.... What ever happened to parental guidance and laying down the law?

    I started early early teaching my son to respect women, and about caring relationships. I refuse to raise one of those kids that disrespects women of any age!

    By Blogger Suzanne, at 7:41 PM  

  • Holy Mackeral! As the father of two teenage daughters, one 19 one 15 I'm as shocked...no shocked isn't the right word...somewhere between appalled and disgusted! I'd say keep her kids away from your kids! Don King may be right..."Only in America!"

    By Blogger Andy, at 7:46 PM  

  • Holy Mackeral! As the father of two teenage daughters, one 19 one 15 I'm as shocked...no shocked isn't the right word...somewhere between appalled and disgusted! I'd say keep her kids away from your kids! Don King may be right..."Only in America!"

    I think you have much more self control than I do...tell me your lip was bleeding.

    Had to do it under the right name...sorry Tish...

    By Blogger The Ugly American, at 7:49 PM  

  • Tish, just be thankful for your parenting skills, because those WITHOUT parenting skills depend on birth control to be the substitute.

    By Blogger Dave Morris, at 8:47 PM  

  • It is better than them getting preganant....

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 8:51 PM  

  • It never ceases to amaze me anymore of the dysfunctional parents out there. That is utterly ridiculous! My girls were riding bicycles, playing with dolls, thinking boys had the cooties at that age!

    By Blogger Live, Love, Laugh, at 9:16 PM  

  • tho more i read the more i couldnt believe itt...

    i love the picture of u i got in my mind, a tiger defending her child
    u r marvalous...

    did u finally got the video? i sent it again by gmail

    By Blogger Ian-Ivy du Bois, at 11:56 PM  

  • That is just so sad. It truly gives parents a bad name.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 8:12 AM  

  • OH MY GOODNESS OH MY GOODNESS!! 11 years old? You know what I was doing when I was 11 years old? I was playing Barbie dolls and lip-syncing Go-go's songs in the mirror with my hairbrush! What are 11 years olds doing today??!! (As if I have to ask, apparently) And what the hell are parents of 11 year olds doing today??!! (apparently not parenting) I am scared now, so scared.

    By Blogger Robin, at 9:16 AM  

  • i'm fairly certain that when i was 11, i didn't even know what birth control pills were!!

    By Blogger Ali, at 10:53 AM  

  • Why is everyone so shocked?

    Even when I was that age 11 wasn't too young to be sexually active. Well, I will say that the parents weren't involved (it was easier to shoplift condoms back then, before the stupid radio tags and cameras)

    I knew a fourteen year old that had a couple of years of sexual experience when we were "a thing". And I was 17 at the time.

    This was 25 years ago, I can't imagine kids are growing up any slower nowadays.

    Please note I'm not saying that this person is parenting her child correctly, only that it isn't as strange as you think that kids are active at a young age. And make sure you are communicating with your own kids...

    By Blogger Silly Old Bear, at 2:24 PM  

  • Excuse me!? Did I read that correctly? Eleven. Years. Old.!!!??? I guess the real issue here is not the fact that she is on birth control, but what the heck this 11 year old girl is doing that both her mother and doctor feel that she needs to be on birth control.

    ...and what parent would be OK with this?

    By Anonymous Tamara, at 2:56 PM  

  • I'm with you...not this mother, not this daughter. I have a 12 year old son and a 9 year old daughter. Both of my kids know about sex because it's an open topic in our home. If my pediatrician even mentioned putting my daughter on birth control, I'd fire that doctor and flip out!
    I, too, hear a lot of..."oh you just wait until...." I have set high standards for my children and I know that when I hear of a mother whose 11 year old daughter is already having sex that, that will NOT be my daughter.

    By Blogger Cara, at 3:20 PM  

  • oh my goodness--my daughter is 14-we've had the talk and that raging drama queen is most definitely in no need of birth control--when she DOES discover the boys who have noticed her the last two years I know i'm in trouble but till then!

    Eleven? Was there at the very least a medical need for it? Or was it for what it's normally for?
    Oh yes, viagra for sex offenders. Whoever said sex offenders are rehabilitated needs to be on drugs themselves--of course they display good behavior in prison-there are no children if they're child molesters and no women if they are rapists.
    Let's put Tish in charge--I think anyone who can have at it with the coach and umpire could clean up a few political vices as well. You'd get my vote!

    By Blogger Monica, at 9:34 AM  

  • Geezus....too too young, that's about I'll I can get to come out.

    By Blogger Jessie, at 10:32 PM  

  • Unfortunately, when I was in 8th grade eons ago(made me something like 12), either a 7th or an 8th grader in my school got pregnant. I does happen.

    Don't know this parent's trials (if any) with her kid, but sometimes, it's an unhappy compromise. Although, in this case, it sounds like the woman doesn't have a situation where she's been fighting a rotten kid. So my wonder is also for the parenting skills of this particular parent.

    By Blogger Jean, at 4:28 PM  

  • Good heavens. I hope that doctor had a long talk with them both. And maybe recommended some therapy. For them both. There are obviously issues there.

    By Blogger Sooz, at 7:03 PM  

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