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Tuesday, May 24, 2005

Turtlenecks in the summer?

Let me ask you all something: am I a prude? Sure, I've toned down quite a bit since having children, but has it gone too far?

Here's the situation - Drama Diva attends a summer day program that has swimming everyday for two hours. There are approximately 200 kids from five years old to eleven, all being supervised by college students and full-time adult directors. Yesterday, a boy kept calling her "hot" and telling her he loved her. She told him to stop, but he continued on until she told on him but nothing was done about it.

I would have not known any of this had she not broken down crying about someone making her feel "uncomfortable". I assured her I would handle it SO, in true Tish fashion, I reported it this morning to one of the teenage supervisors. Her dumbfounded stare told me she wished someone would call her 'hot' and why was I complaining? I explained that at seven years old, being told you're 'hot' isn't appropriate. Pretty, yes. Sweet, sure. But hot, that's the precursor to sexy and believe you me, I will throw a coniption fit if someone tells my CHILD she is sexy.

Thinking all is fine, I went about my day treating the Costanza family from Seinfeld, Joan Crawford from Mommy Dearest, and a former in-patient of One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest. It wasn't until my husband picked up the kids that the crap hit the fan.

Apparently the mother of the boy approached hubby and apologized in that 'I'm sorry your wife is such a wench' way. Being the dutiful husband that he is, he defended my actions...TO THE PROGRAM DIRECTOR! Oh, yes, Drama Diva failed to mention it was the Director's son that was harassing her. There will be no more discounts coming our way in the future.

So I ask you, was I wrong? Maybe I should dress her down, send her in ugly clothes, swimsuits from the 1920's, and not let her shower for days. OR maybe I'm right in defending my daughter against the germ of sexual harassment.

Either way, I'll be labeled as "that" mother for a while. What's new?


  • Mother of the little boy needs to be checking where he's picking up the language--probably daddy.

    By Blogger Norma, at 7:07 PM  

  • She claimed TV, but it was HOW she treated my husband about it. Sorry to offend you, but you need to check your son's language.

    By Blogger Tisha from Texas, at 8:13 PM  

  • I agree with you, parents need to be aware of what their children are doing and saying. Inappropriate behavior needs to be corrected, not only for other children's sake, like your child, but for the boy himself, too many people are taking the casual attitude and it harms both children.

    By Blogger Live, Love, Laugh, at 10:20 PM  

  • Oh I would be all kinds of pissed. And I'm super easy-going.

    you are a woman. of course you're right ;)

    By Blogger Laurie, at 1:15 AM  

  • The day my first daughter was born I was standing in front of that window, you know the one, in front of the nursery. I guess people could see in my face that one of those babies was mine and someone asked me which one was mine. I said that little girl right there. Someone else made the comment that I was lucky, most of the babies born recently were boys. I then responded, "Yeah? Well you better keep all of them away from my little girl!" It got a good laugh...but I was serious!

    By Blogger The Ugly American, at 7:51 AM  

  • How on EARTH was that acceptable behavior from a boy? If your daughter asked him to stop, he should have stopped. Period. I have two daughters and you can bet your butt I would have done the same thing - if my husband didn't get to her first!

    By Anonymous Kate, at 8:54 AM  

  • Tish,'We are in a society now that kids are bombarded with SEX SEX SEX
    and half of them do not know what they are saying half the time.
    I would suspect that either the young man has been exposed to porn, or is allowed to view very inappropriate material for such a young age.
    Stand for what you beleive is right. Protect your child as much as you can. Teach your children sex is ok, when it is done the right way. Teach them that their is nothing to be a shamed of inthe human body- but at the sametime monitor how they dress, and loo in public. For example- Monday night at the Mall I saw a young lady dress in those extremly low cut jeans and everytime she walke she hitching them up because it would show her crack...Kind of strange to dress like that to be cool...
    Remember Women set the moral tone for society- so if we let out littleone's dress like Courtney Love- then what heppens?

    By Blogger ikw3804, at 9:00 AM  

  • If that was my daughter I probably would have gone to prison for pummeling a minor. I am sure there is some code - I probably could plead insanity and with a mostly female jury I might get off with probation. Good thing it wasn't my little girl. But I do hear they have internet access in prison now so I could at least blog!

    Tish, you did the right thing, more people need to stand up and do the right thing.

    By Blogger Eddo, at 3:32 PM  

  • No, you didn't over react. As a parent of a young girl it's your duty to protect her.

    By Blogger Cara, at 3:28 PM  

  • I'd consider finding a different program and/or taking it above the program director's head. And, of course, reinforce to your daughter that she has the absolute right to expect the boy to stop talking to her like that if it makes her uncomfortable.

    By Blogger Jean, at 4:33 PM  

  • Totally worth losing those discounts over. Why are some parents so stupid??

    By Blogger Sooz, at 7:05 PM  

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