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Monday, June 13, 2005

The next slap in the face, liberally

How many of you were spanked as a child? I can't count how many times I have felt the leather of a belt, the wire end of a fly swatter, or a unrolled newspaper found at just the right time. Last time I checked, I wasn't a serial killer, convicted felon, maladjusted sociopath, or deadbeat. The 'abuse' I endured must not have injured my delicate psyche. Apparently, I am functional enough to interact with people in the most intimate of situations and have many longstanding personal relationships that were not hindered by my parents' choice of punishment.

Whether you agree spanking works, as an American you have a choice. If this bill passes, state after state will follow in line and our rights as parents will be swept away.

Isn't it ironic that the same legislators that rant about the rights of terrorists want to limit our roles as parents? Since when did my child's punishment become the concern of a legislative body, when they can't seem to agree how to educate, fund, protect, or enforce laws already on the books?

If this bill were to become law, I suggest the following course of action:
Release all of the criminals into society.
Move all of the law abiding citizens within the walls of the empty prisons.
Ignore the wails of former legislators at the door of the prison begging to be let in.

What is next? Do we sign all rights over at conception? Just sign on the dotted line and every decision about childrearing will be left up to Congressional committees, hearings, and mandates. Fathers can change a diaper or two, mothers can provide the breastmilk, state officials the formative training.

Sounds a little like a country far east of here to me, but what do I know? I was spanked as a child, so it's likely that I am suffering from surpressed trauma that is clouding my judgement.


  • didn't a wise man say...spare the rod spoil the child

    By Blogger Cav, at 1:29 AM  

  • I drew the ire of the hand...the belt...a rolled up newspaper. Years later, I have yet to take up position in a high rise, and start shooting up Cap'n Crunch, Total, or other cereals from the victimization of my psyche I'm supposed to have felt here. Or actually on my sit-down part.

    But don't tell that to a lib; you'll hurt their self-esteem, and they'll have to take away your rights to feel better.

    Too much sparin' of rods, me thinks...

    By Blogger 'Skunk', at 4:57 AM  

  • I think I was spanked as a very young child. My wife and I don't have kids, but we do know several couples that have children and don't physically strike them. None of the kids seem any worse off for it ... and we would *never* think of striking our dogs. How can you teach a child that physical violence is wrong, and then punish them with physical violence?

    By Anonymous absent.canadian, at 5:32 AM  

  • My butt hated me for the longest time - it seemed that growing up I got spanked almost on a daily basis... but I deserved it most of the time.

    I agree with you Tish - the government needs to worry less about parenting and more about runnig the country.

    By Blogger Eddo, at 10:17 AM  

  • As a child, I was struck often with my parents' hands, a leather strap, and switches (which my mother often made me pick myself). I often tried to run from them out of total fear, which made the punishment all the more painful. While I believe that a swat on the butt is often effective in certain situations, I am not of the belief that my parents' methods of discipline were all that effective. No, I am not a criminal. Their methods did not drive me to drugs, murder, or prostitution. But I spent the majority of my childhood fearful, and afraid to speak my mind in my own home, for fear of "the belt". I would never want to subject my kids to that.

    With that being said, I do feel that the government has no place in trying to strip away my rights as a parent. When pedophiles can live next door to me with little supervision, and serial rapists can be released from prison for "good behavior", I find it appalling that the government would have the nerve to attempt to regulate the lives of law-abiding citizens, using our children as a pawn.

    By Blogger Robin, at 10:32 AM  

  • I think if more kids were spanked, there would be less problems in school. Kids are fearless now because they know they can get away with murder. How many times have I heard a kid say to another teacher,"don't touch me or I will sue you." If they use it in the classroom, I am sure they use it at home too.

    If my children are being rotten, a swat to the butt is what they will get.

    By Blogger ShoeHound, at 2:49 PM  

  • I must admit that I, too, am familiar with the wire handle of the flyswatter. But you know what? I learned to stop doing the things that brought it on.

    I have heard sooooo many of my "trouble-making" students say, "My dad better not ever hit me!" Hmmm...maybe that is the problem. They think they are untouchable, that they can't be punished. I teach at-risk students, and hardly ever have trouble with these kids, but their attitudes amaze me. They have grown up with no consequences, no thought of taking responsibility for their actions. It's not just no spanking--it's no grounding, no removing TVs or Play Stations, etc.
    No accountability.

    We used to have a middle school principal who paddled kids (with parent permission). The kids didn't like him, but they respected him. When they heard him in the hall, they would sit up straight and at least pretend to be interested in the lesson. Now we have one who doesn't paddle, and the attitude is:
    "Who's afraid of him? I'm bigger than he is!" Sometimes they need a little fear to motivate them.

    I'm sure many will disagree, but I believe some kids need physical consequences.

    By Blogger Hillbilly Mom, at 8:35 AM  

  • Ever had your kid say, "I'll call CPS(child protective services)!" Itold my oldest, I'd dial the number for her!

    And who says physical violence is wrong?

    By Blogger The Ugly American, at 6:16 AM  

  • Maybe the "no's" and little taps on the hand at the right time worked as toddlers/kindergarteners but as they grew older I found taking their social life/electronics away worked even better. For these three, anyway. So what gets me is the form the school wants signed at the beginning of every school year; you have my permission to use corporal punishment as deemed necessary.
    I always say NO PERMISSION. Then I write--If I can raise my kids without physical corporal punishment so can you. I'm all for spanking a child if necessary--I was spanked and there are no wanted posters out on me, but I don't like the idea of a school having more rights to my child than me.
    The funny thing is: I get blank stares when they see the form filled out that way.

    By Blogger Monica, at 7:45 AM  

  • I think too many actions - that should be deemed private - are being legilated away.

    I was spanked as a small child, as were my two brothers, (and my parents before us) - and we all turned out quite alright, thank you.

    (and quickly stopped the offending behavior that brought on the love taps).

    I see mothers with their screaming children in stores and think - good god woman, stop negotiating with your child. You're the mom.

    Getting back on topic - while I don't advocate hitting anyone, a parent ought to decide how and when to discipline their children. The government should just stay out of it.

    By Anonymous Mala, at 10:02 AM  

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